8 thoughts on “Strap On Harness Panties

  1. Is getting butt fucked pleasurable?
    I’m a straight man and have a strong desire to receive (get pegged). What’s the best product for pegging. A soft dildo arouses me the most and the strapless (feeldoe) toys seem more erotic. Anybody have some tips? Will it lead to desire from a man as well? Is it not worth exploring?

    • You’ve obviously done quite a bit of research as you know your terms and toys well. Men are finally discovering their OWN G-spot… the prostate – and the whole idea of role-reversal while experiencing prostate stimulation only adds to that experience. Also, it provides you a chance to empathize much more with your female partner in intercourse, whether anal or vaginal, as it gives you as the man the full perspective of what it feels like to be penetrated. The ‘pleasurability’ factor is really subjective as that for some men it may be a painful or even emotionally or psychologically humiliating experience, while for others it is pure bliss in all phases of the experience. However, the majority of men who have experienced pegging/strap-on play report to not just enjoy it, but desire repeat experiences – and likewise for their female partner(s). Many men/women will own or use more than one style of strap-on as each design provides uniquely-different pleasurable sensations from length, girth, texture/hardness, durability, comfort or even aesthetic appeal. You will have to experiment with what you feel is right for you and read reviews about the products – a great place to do that is Amazon – no, I’m not joking and eBay as well. I’ve bought over a dozen sex toys through them both and have nothing butt praise for Amazon’s service and their private vendors as well as most eBay sellers – however, do your homework and look at buyers feedback.

      I personally own the vibrating (a must for your partner) Tantus™ Silicone Feeldoe™ Slim (blue) and have used it with two different partners, including my ex-GF who loved wearing it and felt empowered bi having a ‘penis’ and penetrating me. I bought a few strap-ons including the Ultra-Harness 2™, Sister Strap-On™ and yes, Feeldoe™ and had mixed results at first. Actually, I found that when my partner wore a strap-on with a harness, which they found much easier to use, it was not only more comfortable and pleasurable for them, it was for me as well – and honestly… the harness to me, only added to the entire ‘visual’ of the experience. You can use many different types of harnesses with a Feeldoe™ or other strap-on dildos – leather, vinyl, rubber, latex, cloth, etc. and even color coordinate them. They make them with all styles of fasteners and designs – buckles, snaps, ties, Velcro™ or built-in panties/corsets as slip-on’s to fit all sizes shapes of women. There are 4-strap, 3-strap, 2-strap (the poorest in control) and strapless – a woman must have good Kegel (internal vaginal) muscles, however to properly use a strapless dildo such as the Feeldoe™ or it will continually slip out of her disrupting the flow of the amazing experience. My ex-GF was tight and had great control, however, she still preferred having a harness for better control and more powerful thrusting capability. They make them in all sizes and shapes – hint: start slim or smaller in both length and girth… realism can come after you learn to accommodate being fully penetrated. I strongly suggest you do your homework on preparing for receiving male anal sex such as cleaning, lubrication, positioning, etc. The most important advice I can give you is to RELAX and enjoy the ride – wipe out any ‘gay’ worries and just bond with your partner.

      Now, for the 64 million dollar question… will it lead to a desire from a man… phew! My sexuality was mentally ‘flipped’ while with two bi female porn stars (gospel) who wanted to see me with a shemale friend of theirs and many girls I dated confided of fantasies with two men together. I finally lost my cherry in 2008 and I’m now 55/45 bi. My point in all of this is if you’re worried about an unearthed desire or attraction to men then you are probably already subconsciously bisexual – and most people are to some extent Psychologically and behaviorally, very few men or women are 100% straight or 100% gay – most fall somewhere in the range of 1 to 99 on a sexuality spectrum. The big question is where will this eventually lead or is this merely going to be a purely heterosexual desire or fetish – only your Creator knows that. If this ‘turns’ you bi, then all it has done is enhanced the inevitable destiny of your orientation. Remember, our sexuality can fluctuate all throughout our lives and we do not choose whom or what will attract us and what we will desire… but we only have one shot at being mortals… should we miss out on something that we desire over a superfluous fear of being ‘not straight’ as if that is some thing we can control, right? Me, personally… if you want my advice, yes, receiving anal sex aka pegging with a strap-on or even the real thing is and was very well worth exploring – I do not regret it in the slightest – I’d only regret growing old asking myself ‘what if’ as I did for several years until the past couple of blissful years.

      Good luck – play safe, lube up and make sure to ‘bone up’ on all the details, tips and facts – hehe – have fun :)

  2. How do you know if your husband/male companion is bi-sexual or not?
    My man has done some things that have caused me to question if he is bi-sexual or not. Pinching other guys on the butt for example. How do you know the signs.

    • Let me first apologize for some of the very misleading advice that you’ll find here.

      Then, say thanks to those that put forth an honest effort to help others.

      Asking your husband may only end up in a fight.
      A man (especially one that is married, in the closet, defensive and/or has been seeking homosexual relations) can react violently when his sexuality is being challenged. Society has made men think it is not “manly” or tough to be gay. So, asking him may only get you into a fight.

      On the other hand however, if you can find a way to ask him if he’d like to “experiment”, you may be able to cojole him into telling you some truths about himself.

      There is one thing you can do that can be a tell all.
      Rent a Gay Adult video or a video that has Gay scenes.
      At you local Adult book/toy store, you can find videos with everything in one picture. Look for something with “bi” or variations in the title. If he gets hot seeing two men having sex, then you know he’s at least curious and bi-sexual.
      During those scenes, put your hand on his penis and see if he is erect. If so, ask him if that turns him on. Now, don’t ask him like your a bad cop looking for answers after drinking nine cups of bad coffee. Ask him like you’re a high paid call girl and just made $4k and are just looking to make him happy. Use your most sultry voice.

      Now, if he admits it turns him on, then you’ve got something to go on. Now you can SLOWLY find out what about it turns him on. Is it the “man” part of it? Is he turned on by Masculine or Feminine? Some men are attracted to other men, only if that man is feminine and/or even girly. Some men, like to be with MEN. Hairy, tough manly men.

      This may take you a few weeks, go slow and don’t scare him. If you do, you may never find out.

      If the Video isn’t your style, be inventive and try other things.
      When you’re at the mall, find a handsome man and ask your husband if he thinks that guy is sexy. Not attractive or good looking, but specifically… SEXY. Pay close attention to his eyes and his reaction.

      Get a male fashion catalog and show him underwear you think are sexy. Does he get an erection?

      Also, if some of this pans out to be true and yet he doesn’t seem homosexual to you….. there are other situations here.

      For instance, he may just want to be feminized.
      Some men like for their women to Feminize them. Dress them in panties, spankings etc. It can go as far as some men like their women to penetrate them analy with a strap on phallis.

      Though not viewed as normal in our tight a$$ society, this can be fun for both partners and satisfy his desires and give you more control in the relationship.

      Now remember, it doesn’t make a man gay, if he likes to have as anus penetrated. It makes him aware of his prostate.

      What makes a man Gay is if he likes MEN.

      BTW: pinching a guys butt doesn’t mean a thing.
      Cupping a man’s butt, well that’s another story.

      Also, you have to ask yourself what you’re comfortable with.
      If it turns out he is Gay, well then…. there’s only one thing to to.
      Hook him up with a boy and let him go.

      If he’s Bi-sexual, then you have the most difficult decision: can you let a man into your bedroom to sleep with your husband?

      If he wants to be feminized? Well, that’s easy… do it. You’ll find it fun too. Put on your strap on harness, dress up like the husband, make him up like your girlfriend and go to work.

      I know this all seems a bit brash, but that’s only because you’re out of your known world. If you love your husband, try everything before giving up.

      Good luck to you…

      cheers

  3. i need a jumpsuit that holds a diaper or pad for a cat the strap goes over head and comes down the back?
    IT IS JUST LIKE A JUMPSUIT BUT FOR A CAT HOOKS OVER NECK AND COMES DOWN THE BACK AND VELCROS ON EACH SIDE OF THE OUTFIT AND YOU CAN PUT A PAD INSIDE TO CATCH THE URINE PLEASE HELP
    IT IS FOR A SMALL CAT

    • What about some of the “panties” for toy breed b!tches in heat? Could you combine that with a cat harness to make someting like you are thinking?

      Does your cat have CRF or something? In any case the Feline CRF Information Center http://www.felinecrf.com (or is it dot.org?) might be a place to check, or there is a Yahoo forum I think for crf cats. These people would have cats that have to pee frequently and are somtimes incontinent and I’m sure this issue may have come up. I certanly thought about it years ago but did not try it. if it had gotten worse, I might have, so I bet maybe someone else has.

      If you have ruled out illness by a vet check, then if it is having litterbox problems it is better to focus on serious cleaning, and on behavior modification. Check out the Dr. Elsey’s Cat Attract litter. They also have a very good cleaner to keep cats from coming back because they still detect urine where they peed before, even if you can’t smell it. And that company’s website h as a pdf booklet you can download that has some great suggestions for dealing with litterbox problems.

  4. LGBT: Here’s a question for the women…?
    If your partner (female obviously) was in the bathroom and had a “surprise” for you and then walked out with a harness and toy strapped on, what would be your first reaction?

    O_O I saw that on The L Word today, season 2 haha. It made me want to ask.

    My first reaction would probably be stifled laughter and then i’d be turned on immensely ;)